Marriage Mondays

#MarriageMondays – Jabulile and Masasa Lefu

Blazon Magazine June 8, 2020

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Names: Jabulile Lefu and Pastor Masasa Lefu

Married since: 2006 Oct 28th

Pet names: I call him Love, he calls me Honey.

Kids: 4 -Tsoho, Tlholo, Tsebo, Tshenolo

Scripture foundation: Galatians 6:9

Where did you meet?

We met at church, he was our youth pastor and I was a sister at church involved in ushering. My mother had told him so much about me in my absence, while at varsity, which created an anticipation of some sort.

Was it love at first sight?

Yes it was love at first sight, when he finally saw me and when I saw him, our eyes just locked into each other. On that first day we sort of knew somehow that our destinies would collide.

What attracted you to each other?

He says my beauty, smile and eyes attracted him to me

I was attracted by same, his striking eyes, smile, the way he looked and how he cared and respected people.

Why did you get married?

We got married because when we met we both had found each others’ destiny helper and had to officiate it.

How did he propose?

He called me in to see him, a day after his birthday. I went in, sat by the table to hear what he wanted to discuss with me. He seemed nervous, adjusted his tie, looked down and told me that he loved me. And that he wanted to make me his wife.

He then looked into my eyes, expressed how there where many women at Bethel, but I surpassed them all. I also had to tell him that I felt the same way too.

How has marriage changed you?

Marriage promoted me. It made me a better version of me, gave me perspective.

What has marriage taught you?

Marriage has taught me how to love, be patient and sacrifice.

What do you love most about being married?

What I love most about being married is companionship, knowing that you are never alone in this journey called life.

What are some of the challenges you’ve faced in marriage and how have you overcome them?

Finances, lack of. We overcame by hope, hoping it will be better tomorrow, trust, trusting the perfect plan of God for our lives and patience, being patient in the season. The word of God is our marriage pillar! Seasons of lack, taught us Contentment, being OK with not having much. Having each other in times of lack compensated for much. We overcame also by teamwork and planning.

What do you mostly fight about?

We do not fight, we may have differences in opinions, but never fighting. Our greatest difference in opinion to date over the 13 years, was on…,

Well with us, I think it is never big differences, just small “foxes” that may amount into big foxes if left unattended.

What irritates you about each other?

Nothing irritates me about my husband, he is perfect to me with his imperfections.

Perfect imperfections.

How do keep love alive?

We keep love alive by prayer. Praying together, kneeling down together and sharing scriptures. My husband teaches me the word of God, he is patient with me and has taught me most of what I have come to know about God. He cleanses me by the word.

What do you do for fun?

We go out for fun, a bit of fresh air, movies, food, and exploring new things.

What do you think marriage is?

Marriage is sacrifice, laying down of a life for another

What do you think makes a marriage work?

God makes a marriage work. A 3 strand cord is not easily broken.

What do you think makes it fail?

What makes marriages fail is the absence of God. God is Love!

What do you think is the reason for people to not believe in the institution of marriage?

Some people do not believe in marriage because they may not understand what it is, as instituted by God.

Most may think they know what marriage is, but only through God do we know what marriage is.

Why do you think pre marital counselling is important?

Pre marital counselling is important because it gives you a glimpse of what to expect and prepares you for it. Each marriage is different but all face the same challenges. Nothing is new under the sun.