Marriage Mondays
#MarriageMondays – Lizzy Lee & Basil Van Rooyen
Names: Lizzy Lee and Basil Van Rooyen
Married since: 23 November 2006
Pet names: love, liefie, sweetpy, sthandwa
Kids: 2 beautiful girls
Scripture foundation: Psalms 23vs1
How did you meet?
At church
Was it love at first sight?
Lizzy – no
Basil – yes
What attracted you to each other?
Lizzy – his friendliness
Basil – her cleanliness and happy personality
Why did you get married?
Lizzy – I’ve always wanted to get married and the fact that he was so caring made it even easier.
Basil – I started calling her my future wife while we were still dating, i saw then that she would be a great mother and wife.
How did he propose?
He proposed during my 21st birthday in front of my parents, the engagement was quite long because he was still a student at the time. He only paid lobola in his first year of working.
How has marriage changed you?
We have less friends now, we spend a lot of time together.
What has marriage taught you?
Patience, selflessness and respect
What do you love most about being married?
Companionship, having a confidant and someone to rely on. Making love and being intimate.
What are some of the challenges you’ve faced in your marriage and how did you overcome them?
My in-laws didn’t like me much in the beginning, but my husband always defended and protected me until eventually they started warming up to me. Husbands must learn to stand up for their wives no matter what, they shouldn’t allow people to disrespect them.
What do you mostly fight about?
Money, my husband is a big spender and giver.
What irritates you about each other?
He doesn’t like it when i release gas😂. I don’t like it when i have to repeat myself😏
How do you keep love alive?
We pray together. We watch movies with our girls
What do you do for fun together?
We walk around naked when its just the 2 of us in the house and we love being intimate with each other 😍
We also do house chores together and my husband loves it when i read bedtime stories till he falls asleep, no that’s not just for children even adults do it 🤣
What do you think is the reason for people to not believe in the institution of marriage?
The high rate of divorce, infidelity, disfunctional family backgrounds or upbringing etc
What advice do you have for people intending to get married?
Be as transparent to each other as possible
Don’t succumb to pressure from family or friends
Always be willing to forgive
Protect each other
And finally dont compare yourselves to other couples, run your own race
