#MarriageMondays – Tsholanang and Nkateko

Where did you meet?

Calvary Servant-hood Community Church, I was visiting his church.

Was it love at first sight?

When he saw me he knew he wanted to marry me. For me, it took our first date.

What attracted you to each other?

The openness and honest conversation on our first date. I was swept off my feet when he held my hand on our first date, there was power right there.

Why did you get married?

We were both ready to settle and establish a family.

How did he propose? 

There was no formal proposal.

How has marriage changed you?

It has helped hubby to be more grounded. I’m generally an outdoors person but I’m learning to cherish spending time indoors.

What has marriage taught you?

Patience and to be more accommodative, to be selfless and that we can achieve more when working together.

What do you love most about being married?

The companionship, being accountable to each other and having our own family.

What are some of the challenges you’ve faced and how did you overcome them?

We haven’t had major challenges..

What do you fight about mostly?

My phone 🙈, I haven’t been adhering to our phone off times. And also chores.

What irritates your about each other? 

One is a morning person and the other is not. One will wake up and try to wake the other. Then the other will open their eyes but not get out of bed, then one comes back and wants to chat, but the other is still in their own world. Both are frustrated cos one is thinking we’re getting late and the other is thinking can I just be quiet.

How do you keep love alive?

By spending as much time together; and also attending realistic relationship seminars (where issues are addressed raw as they are, no sugar coating)

What do you do for fun?

We love theater and music, we do that alot together unless stated otherwise or hubby is away due to work.

Why do you think is the reason for people to not believe in the institution of marriage?

Because of broken relationships, trust and the high rate of divorce. I believe that it’s also how we as married people have modelled and portrayed our marriages, if we portray a better image, maybe just maybe things would be different.

What is your advice to those intending to get married?

Treat each other with respect; never neglect each other, that opens loopholes to unnecessary 3rd parties. Your marriage will be what you want it to be. Lastly, Ecclesiastes 4:12b says a threefold (God, Wife, Husband) cord is not quickly broken.

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