#MarriageMondays – Solly & Lebo

Names: Solly Mathebula and Lebo Ma Tlholo-Amu Mathebula
Married since: November 2005
Pet names: Lovey
Scripture foundation: Revelations 2v4, Go back to the first love

Where did you meet? 

We met at Church.

Was it love at first sight?

No.

What attracted you to each other? 

Lebo: His consistency when discussing family matters, love for children & education.
Solly: Her beauty, humility & her love for Prayer.

Why did you get married?

Solly: Because of her God-fearing qualities.
Lebo: Because of his love for family & God.

How did he propose? 

At a dinner date, he clearly told me he wants to send his uncle’s to negotiate lobola for me and he’ll use his 1st salary as a deposit😂😂 and he did👏🏼

How has marriage changed you? 

Solly: It made me appreciate family values & taught me humility & patience.
Lebo: It changed how I look at life, in terms of making decisions; one needs to be considerate and communicate clearly.

What has marriage taught you?

Solly: It has taught me love, commitment & perseverance.
Lebo: It taught me to think before doing anything, to believe more in love, to feel secured & have a sense of belonging.

What do you love most about being married? 

Solly: Companionship, to always check & pray about decisions to be taken.
Lebo: You get time to be spoiled, being allowed to pursue your calling/dreams, emotional and physical support.

What are some of the challenges you’ve faced in your marriage and how did you overcome them?

Losing a child two and half hours after giving birth, losing a house immediately after signing the contract (someone counter offered). It happened immediately after losing a child, it was devastating😭2 miscarriages, hubby losing a job. We overcame all through prayer, our strong believe in God, our support and love for each other.

What do you mostly fight about? 

Solly: Time, she takes her time to do anything, and we end up being late.
Lebo: He leaves his cups of coffee everywhere😂 he cooks but leaves the stove in a mess🙈

What irritates you about each other? 

Solly: Time management, her lack of planning on time.
Lebo: Being tough on people and he is too talkative🗣 yoooh🤪

How do you keep love alive? 

Dates, Dinners, Calls during the day, Spoil each other with Gifts, Holidays, watching soccer together even go to Stadium together, cook together, Pray together.

What do you do for fun together? 

We loooove shopping together🛍, driving her to the salon😉, watching our Son play soccer together⚽, play games together.

What do you think is the reason for people to not believe in the institution of marriage? 

What people see in other marriages, they think when you married you loose yourself, they think marriage is slavery

What advice do you have for people intending to get married? 

Honesty, people must be honest from day one
Open communication, people must talk about everything, family background, finances, talk about sex openly, number of kids they want to have, needs, expectations etc.
Also have their Scripture Foundation which they can refer to each time
Family values to avoid interference from friends, families both in-laws
Never forget what brought them together, LOVE
Remember Marriage is work, you both need to Work on it Daily For it to improve.
Never allow anyone to come between the 2 of you no matter who it is, both should put each other 1st.

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