Marriage Mondays
#MarriageMondays – Lettus & Mpho
Names: Lettus and Mpho Entle Shitlhavane
Married since: August 2011
Pet names: Sthandwa, Baby, Sthando
Kids: 2, Nkateko and Nyiko
Scripture foundation: Romans 8vs31 – If God is for us who can be against us?
How did you meet?
He used to come to my workplace to meet the pastor who was my manager.
Was it love at first sight?
Mpho – No
Lettus – Yes
What attracted you to each other?
Mpho – His physique and jokes; he is really funny.
Lettus – Her confidence.
Why did you get married?
Because we love each other and knew that we want to be together forever. We were and still are comfortable with each other.
How did he propose?
He actually told me within 2 weeks into our relationship that he wanted to make me Mrs Him and he did, he paid lobola 7 months into our relationship.
How has marriage changed you?
Mpho – It has made me better and stretched me into becoming selfless
Lettus – I’ve also changed for the better, I know what’s important and what’s not.
What has marriage taught you?
Mpho – Love, forgiveness, loyalty and how to protect my husband. I’ve learnt to rely on God for wisdom and read, learn and evolve together.
Lettus – Focus and sacrificial love.
What do you love most about being married?
Mpho – Having someone to annoy for the rest of my life and he doesn’t mind it. Having a best friend and confidant. Having a prayer partner.
Lettus – Having a life companion and best friend.
What are some of the challenges you’ve faced in your marriage and how did you overcome them?
Our son being hospitalized – he has 2 operations, it was emotionally, financially and physically draining. We overcame through prayer and faith.
What do you mostly fight about?
We have learnt to choose our battles, we try resolve things soberly.
What irritates you about each other?
Mpho – He leaves socks in every pair of shoes😂
Lettus – She’s too pedantic 😂
How do you keep love alive?
We spend a lot of time together doing what we both love; we are each other’s number 1 supporters, we cheer each other and also through intimacy and laughter always.
What do you do for fun together?
We attend music concerts together (music is our shared love and interest) we go out for movies and on weekend getaways or send children away so that we can have the house and snack to ourselves.
What do you think is the reason for people to not believe in the institution of marriage?
The model of what marriage is. Marriage is seen like you’re entering hell on earth because of what is happening in it – abuse, infidelity etc. That’s why in our marriage we want to model a good and healthy marriage, it is our wish for God to use our marriage to restore hope in the lives of young people.
What advice do you have for people intending to get married?
Understand yourselves first as individuals and define your own marriage according to what you want it to be without copying others
